New Year’s resolutions include listeningBy ROBERT STEDMAN,
I'm a long way from being the man God wants me to be. I'm as far from perfect as the next guy. That being said, it's that time of year when many of us make unrealistic resolutions. Just drive by any workout place the first week in January and repeat that three weeks later. There's your proof. And it's really sorta sad to start the year off with a broken personal promise.
With that said, I'm gonna offer some simple suggestions for 2019. And please, feel free to laugh at the thought of me giving out pointers for a better you. However, I get lots of good advice from others. Plus, I have a priest, Fr John Bohn, who delivers the most amazing homilies (sermons). So if I listen, I can hear some pretty cool stuff every Sunday.
The first "new you" tweak should be obvious. Put down the phone. Leave that thing in your car when you walk into a restaurant. Way too many times, I see entire families with their head pointed toward their lap. It's just ridiculous. And you know it is. So please, look across the table at that person who's sharing a meal with you. Good grief, people.
Now let's talk about social media. While I usually enjoy it, I have to take it in small doses. It can be a little depressing. Sometimes it's not fun to scroll through all your "friends" most awesome moments, while you have a huge zit on your nose, and just argued with your wife about loading the dishwasher. Yep, that's not the best time to see a selfie of Brad and Brandy posing on the beach with really white teeth. This can make you feel like a lurking fool. So please, keep social media to a sensible scrolling level.
Tweak #3 is the easiest. Santa dropped a Foosball table down our chimney and I swear, it's better than a Disney vacation. There's nothing more awesome than laughing with the people you love the most. It's the simple things. I'm telling you. That is so true.
Now here's a suggested improvement that I will forever be chasing. I need to be a better listener. It's true. I'm a guy. I'm simple. I love to look at fire. I have the ability to just stare at it, maybe even with other dudes, and feel quite content. However, I live most of my life with a lovely lady who needs to talk and needs me to hear what she says...even when it goes in 10 different directions. You think I would have mastered this with two older sisters and my mother, who are all very chatty. Well I haven't, but will commit to trying.
And there it is. I'm done. Can you believe I wrote an entire column, dancing around New Year resolutions, and didn't even mention exercise. I will certainly get an ear-full from my very healthy mother on that. Oh well. When it's all said and done, we all just wanna be better versions of ourselves. So what are you waiting for in 2019? Snap to it. I'll end with this quote from Harvey MacKay...
“Life is too short to wake up with regrets. So love the people who treat you right. Forget about those who don’t. Believe everything happens for a reason. If you get a chance, take it. If it changes your life, let it. Nobody said life would be easy, they just promised it would most likely be worth it.”
Robert Stedman is a Northsider.