The Danger of Third Chance.
The same repeated pattern of behavior is a complete analysis of an individual personality.
It’s completely normal to give second chances, even if the situation eventually doesn’t turn in their favor. After all, you want to give others the benefit of the doubt; you want to offer them enough space to show you who they truly are and where their intentions lie. You want to be gracious and be that normal person.
There’s nothing wrong with this kind of approach.
The real problem comes when you’ve given someone a second and probably a third chance, watched them flounder it, and decided to try again.
Believe people when they show you who they are. Don’t stick around in the hopes they’ll fulfill whatever potential you see in them. The first disappointment is a forgivable mistake. The second same disappointment is a red flag. The third and so on is the individual personality. This is who the individual is. This is the point of decision whether to hang in and manage the individual as is or cut off and move on. Because it's no longer a mistake,it's a character.
By the evidence in front of you, examine if this person values and respects your kind heart. If this person doesn’t try to walk over you. Someone who cherishes the energy you pour into them and returns the favor. Someone you can trust with your details and someone who gets your back when needed.
If you're not comfortable answering the above objectively,shut the line and move on.
Keep this in mind always. Someone who defaulted more than two times through the same pattern will always default. So, safeguard your expectations, preserve your commitments and involvements if you don't want to get hurt.
The reasons why "if I had known" is because you gave more than required.
